a two part task
I think I need to make more of an effort to keep in touch with people so I am going to try and post regulary. Suz looks very beautiful in her wedding photos, I think dressing up as the corpse bride for halloween is as close as i'll get to that. The problem with posting is that I don't really have that much to say, life, whilst good, is just not quite as interesting as in aberystwyth. I don't know, it's something about knowing how everyday will turn out, in aber you were never quite sure what would happen or who with. I went to a UN conference on Climate change last week and that was very good, and I even got up the courage to talk to a very beautiful man, not that anything came of it, but at least I tried. I had my first event a couple of weeks ago "Red Kite Fright Night" and that was very successful and things at work are great (apart from drinking too much at a work do and falling over). Admittedly I'm not really doing any of my phd work and that is bad but it is also the way I work, hopefully pressure will build up and then I'll be away. Anyway isn't this rambly! Sure it's a start, my sunday post? Yes, Jen's sunday post, and at the end of which there will be a question that only the good people who live or lived in aber shall be asked. This week's question, or task, or experiment, sticking to the theme of marriedom and singledom comes in two parts, of which you can choose one or both.

PART ONE
I think chatting people up is not necessarily the hardest part of getting off with someone or getting a date, what is hard is finding out if people are single (or in Dan, Ruth, JTA and claire's case, open to further realtionships), this can be very difficult, particulary in professional situations where it is not appropriate to come straight out with "Are you single?" or "are you available?". Therefore the first part of the task is to come up with new, or old, but essentially inventive ways of ascertaining the answer to the question. If possible in a way that does not immediately convey "You are gorgeous, I want to lick you" to the person addressed. Suggestions from everyone very welcome and needed, the more obscure the better! The way of finding out has to make it look like you weren't really asking, which makes it ok if you have to see the person everyday!

PART TWO
Should you choose to accept it this is a mission, an experiment! To all those out there that have held their tongues in the past and let "opportunities" slip them by. This coming week, if you see someone you like, whether for the first time or someone you already know, I implore you to go up to them and ask them if they are single/available using one of the lines that part one provides or your own perferred method. Now, a lot of people will be turned down, there are a lot of attached monogamous people out there! I am prepared to be let down myself, but then at least we will have tried! And we can see if the lines from part one work to find out if they are available. The next step, if you like the person, is to work out whether they are up for a relationship or "random play" (as facebook puts it) or whatever you want. So, if a line works for me, and the guy is single, I am going to ask him out for a drink! Yes, yes I am! And I am then going to report back on the results of the "experiment". Please feel free to take this next step with me. Strength in numbers! And a wee mantra for everyone about to approach someone they like,

"What have we got to Lose?"

Till next week,
Jen